Safety

Before you meet in person

• Talk through limits, safewords, and aftercare expectations before the day you meet — not after you're already there.
• Video call first. A real conversation is a better screen than any profile text.
• Meet somewhere public the first time, even for a D/s-focused first meeting — a coffee first, before anywhere private.
• Tell a friend where you're going, who with, and when you expect to be back. Share a live location if you can.
• Agree on a check-in time with that friend, and a code word you can text if you need an excuse to leave.
• Arrange and pay for your own way there and back, especially the first time.

Red flags worth taking seriously

• Pressure to skip the conversation about limits, or to meet in private immediately.
• Refusing a video call before meeting, with no real reason.
• Asking for money before you've even met — findom is a real, consensual dynamic between two people who both chose it, not something anyone owes a stranger on request.
• Pushing past a limit you already stated, "testing" it without asking first.
• Anything that reads as underage. Report it — see below — don't try to handle it yourself.

If something goes wrong

Use Block on their profile — it's immediate and mutual, they won't be told, and you'll never see each other on the app again. Use Report too if what happened is worth someone else knowing about, even if you've already blocked them — blocking only affects what you see, reporting is the only thing that creates any record beyond your own account.